Xander (they/them)
Speaker. Writer. Facilitator. Consultant.
Disabled. Sick. Queer. AuDHD. Abolitionist.
Speaker. Writer. Facilitator. Consultant.
Disabled. Sick. Queer. AuDHD. Abolitionist.
Speaker. Writer. Facilitator. Consultant.
Disabled. Sick. Queer. AuDHD. Abolitionist.
Xander spent their life striving to be seen as perfect
by pushing through pain.
Eventually their body and mind were in an untenable state of
pain and anxiety.
That collapse led them back
to their body,
their needs,
and the power of collective care.
Now, they create spaces where
honesty, grief, and joy can coexist—
Where disabled, neurodivergent and queer people
can be seen in both
their struggles
and their magic.
I teach, speak, and write about:
I teach, speak,
and write about:
Disability, chronic illness & interdependence
Neurodivergence & creativity
Queerness & collective magic
Whiteness, racism & systems of harm
Power that grows in the cracks
Putting theory to practice
In May of 2022, I painted the community I dreamed of. This image has been a beacon of what community could feel like; a web that is so vibrant and robust that it can hold us when we fall and breathe new life into all of the edges. Back then, this felt so far off and now when I look around, I feel this web becoming more and more a part of my reality.
