BUILDING A WORLD WHERE BEING DIFFERENT
DOESN’T MEAN BEING ALONE
When the world isn’t built for you, you learn to redesign it.
I’m Xander
A speaker, writer, and facilitator who creates spaces where grief, joy, limitation, and possibility are held together.
New TEDx Talk Coming Soon
“What not to say to someone with chronic illness”
Learn how language can open doors to connection
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What I Offer
Keynotes, workshops and courses.
Consulting on access, care webs, and cultural change.
One on one coaching (can include families and support systems) and ongoing groups.
How I Work
Storytelling that makes systemic issues personal and felt.
Consulting that prioritizes real access, not checkboxes.
Workshops and talks that reframe care as creativity.
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Keynote Speaking
Stories that spark personal and collective change
Practical tools for building more inclusive and connected communities
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Coaching
Unlock the magic inside you that’s ready to bloom
Access your creativity and intuition
Testimonials
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"Coaching with Xander has completely changed my relationship to disability and to myself. Their deep listening and compassion make me feel truly seen, and every session leaves me more grounded, empowered, and at peace."
Corry Seibert
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"In a time when we have fewer fellow citizens willing to reach out and understand each other’s stories and experiences, Xander is a welcome illustration of how we can be better together and lead by example. "
Holly Gates
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"When I know I'll be working with Xander, I know I'll be held. And I'm never sure that it's going to be easy, but I know that whatever comes up, they can hold me."
Beth Wittmann
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"Xander has been working with both of my young adult kids for 2 months and I’ve seen more progress and results than over a year of therapy. Xander is much more than a coach: they both felt understood and safe."
Christina Sevilla
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"I am finding in Xander’s work, deeper healing for my years of physical struggle, and I am finding inspiration for my life and my work today.”
Anisha Kuhn
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"Xander is this magical force that came into my life less than a year ago, but knowing them and being the benefactor of their skills and their insight and their just ability to hold has been an indescribable gift."
Lyric
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"I feel like any facilitator always seems like this big, scary person that you want to have your micro interactions with. But Xander really made it fun and comfortable for me, especially when I came in feeling a little bit more closed off."
Olivia
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"I think something so valuable about having Xander as a facilitator and as a coach, is that Xander has an incredible way of inviting you to slow down and modeling it without making it feel forced. It makes you want to slow down. "
Victoria Silva
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"My kiddo had some challenges navigating academic and personal life, but Xander offered tailored coaching that not only helped develop effective study habits and organizational skills but also boosted their confidence."
Tiffany Bromfield
